You must not dance as a mere pastime and as an occasional amusement, but you must devote yourself to it as a business and a religion. Dance with all the might of your body, and all the fire of your soul, in order that you may shake all melancholy out of your liver; and you need not restrain yourself with the apprehension that any lady will have the least fear that the violence of your movements will ever shake anything out of your brains.
If you invite a lady to go to the theater, neglect not to leave her, and go out to drink with your male friends between each act, as this will show her that you have confidence that she can protect herself; and if you can fall asleep during the play, it will be a great thing for you, as it will show that you are too much interested in her to take any interest in the play; and, besides, she has the sweet privilege of imagining that you are dreaming of her. Nothing so fascinates a woman as to know that a gentleman dreams about her. Hence you will do well to always pretend that you dreamed of her, whether you did or not. No matter if she understands your falsehood, as she will be quite sure to do, for still she cannot help being flattered that you think so much of her that you will tell her falsehoods to please her.
— Lola Montez: The Arts of Beauty: or, Secrets of a Lady’s Toilet, 1858.